I am a judgmental person, no I used to be a judgmental person. When I would hear of someone who lived with their parents and did not have a job the first thing that came to mind was LOSER. I can't think like that anymore I refuse to call myself a loser. The past 20 months has changed me and I feel for the better. How could I ever call someone a loser when I had no idea what made them or forced them to take a step back in life.
I live with my parents, because I left my husband. The best decision I could ever make for my child and I. I do not work or bring income in to the household, because I stopped working my twentieth of pregnancy. I chose to stay at home throughout my pregnancy and the first year of my sons life. Since I have hit the pavement, some may say, I have had only a few bites. Although this makes me a little depressed, since I am a very career oriented person, I would not change this for the world. Once my son started daycare 4 months ago my grandmother has been very ill and simply put needed 24 hour monitoring. Once again I am the one in the family that doesn't work so I have taken on that task while the others cannot. With all these events taken place I can't help but think of that old saying "things happen for a reason."
For example, once my son was born I realized that my husband was not what I wanted in the long term partnership of marriage. Living at home with my parents is providing my son with a better life than he would have with my husband and I. A better life than what we could provide him. Maybe I haven't located a job because my grandmother needs my help at the moment. Now it's all making since.
I am not a loser and will never be. My personality will not allow that. So before I or anyone else makes a judgment call on someone, think think of what they may have gone through to put them in that place.
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